I had a funeral — without dying. It was a good experience.
When I had to leave Guatemala, all the church members gushed about my good qualities. My defects, which previously had dominated evaluations, got forgotten. Now I know what it’s like to die.
This is the Yelp predicament. A disgruntled customer is highly motivated to post a comment. A satisfied one, not at all. Businesses have been sunk by this psychological phenomenon.
If you are given to criticizing others in the church, realize that:
- criticism is not a calling, not a charge, not a gifting from God. It lines up more with what the accuser of the brethren (Satan) does.
- you excuse and justify your own faults.
- you blow out of proportion your own merits.
- you probably are unaware of all kinds of services and sacrifices made by the very person you’re criticizing.
- the effects of your criticism will not advance the kingdom of God.
- an ounce of compliment would do more good than a ton of criticism.
- your criticism is probably motivated by envy and jealousy.
If you take a lot of criticism, realize that:
- Satan’s strategy is get you to stop your labors.
- people throw stones at a tree with fruit (Spanish expression — to knock down fruit to eat, they throw stones. If the fruit tree is barren, no one throws stones at it.)
- compliments mostly go unvoiced.
- your life and ministry is in the hands of God, not of your critics.