Graduation to Heaven!


Up to the end, Stan Yep retained his sense of humor. But life lost its taste for him.

Up to the end, Stan Yep retained his sense of humor. But life lost its taste for him.

My dad (father-in-law) died yesterday. You ought to congratulate me. He’s in Heaven.

Do people cry for a touchdown? For a grand slam? For the World Cup winning goal? Do they cry at graduations? Well, maybe they cry tears of joy.

Yet graduation to Heaven exceeds each of these earthly joys. Finally, my much-loved dad shed his decrepit body and put on his glorified form. Heaven’s for Real  suggests that people get the best, youthful version of themselves in Heaven. Is Dad bowling already?

In his last days, Dad remembered his iconic salute.

In his last days, Dad remembered his military salute. It warmed my heart.

Call me weird. But I just can’t cry. Sure, I’m going to miss him, but I have no misgivings about eternity. It seems to me that people cry only because of their doubts. I mean, if the evolutionists have it right that we are just bio mass with self consciousness until we cease to exist and get eaten by worms, then yeah, wail and howl unendingly.

The family get togethers have been celebratory, and that seems the right way to me. No drowning sorrows with alcohol. That wasn't Dad's life. He lived for God.

The family get-togethers have been celebratory, and that seems the right way to me. No drowning sorrows with alcohol. That wasn’t Dad’s life. He lived for God.

But sorry, with due respect to all my atheistic friends — and they’re all my friends, but I can’t think for myself and subscribe to the notion that all of creation came from nothing, anymore than when I see a beautiful hotel building, I can’t believe it just formed by itself. (How does an atheist observe a funeral?)

Before my mom died, she told me she didn’t want weeping. She wanted us to dance and celebrate. She

Dad, in his final days.

Dad, in his final days.

would be with Jesus. Before she graduated, she had Alzheimer’s. Why would she — why would we, or anyone — want her to stay here and deteriorate? That would be like forcing her to suffer misery in an Indian slum hovel instead of living in a five-star hotel. And believe me, the five-star hotel comparison comes up short.

So I am happy today! Please don’t try to guilt me for not feeling the way you think I ought. Sincerely, I ask, if you are a true believer, why don’t you feel the way I do?

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58 responses to “Graduation to Heaven!

  1. Amen – a christian funeral should be anything but sad. I miss my dad, but there is no way i would wish on him the curse of coming back to the slums!

  2. This is such a wonderful post. Thank you. I understand how you feel.

  3. Amen! My dad is getting older and his health is not that great but I think often of how I probably will not cry either and actually look forward to shining His light for all those in the dark!

  4. Beautiful post. Thanks for sharing.

  5. So inspiring….. Thank you for your outlook on our loved ones passing away. It is their graduation from this world to their eternal home. We should rejoice because if they are in The Lord, they are going home to be with Him! Amen!

    God bless you and your family as you celebrate the life of your Dad.

    ~Terra

  6. Thank you for this, it does help me with my dad, whom I lost in February. I misshim terribly, I love him so much. Yet I was happy for him to go as he has it much better in heaven, no suffering. He couldn’t see, hear or move any more. You remind me of being happy for him and not always cry when I think of him. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  7. I am glad he’s with the Lord, but I’m sorry for your loss.

  8. I think those that would cry at this loss, that it’s perfectly okay. I’ve felt sorrowed when a good friend is moving far away and I likely won’t get to see them again for a very long time, if ever in this life. I think that’s partly what mourning is, and it’s worse when it’s death because you can’t even call or Facebook them until after you’ve left the Earth.

    I agree in the sentiment of cheering their progression to better things, especially those who have lived a full life. My grandmother was 14+ years without her husband and she was more than eager at the end of her long life to get back with him and I was glad for her reunion when she did pass. But I still sorrow over that relationship that is temporarily cut off. I think that’s the point you’re getting at though.

  9. Great article! appy for your father-in-law.

  10. Congratulations! I agree, this is a time of celebration for he is now in his real home, with the Lord.

  11. yourothermotherhere

    I read once that we have it wrong in our culture about the life cycle. We should cry when a baby is born because they have life’s trials and tribulations ahead of them, and rejoice when someone dies because their time here is over.

  12. Wonderful post and tribute. Condolences on your loss here but yes, glory to God for Heaven’s gain!

  13. Hallelujah! When I got the news that my father had died a few days after his 64th birthday, my honest first reaction was, “He won’t have to retire.” (as a missionary) I indeed missed him and the sweet fellowship we had as believers together, and I’m looking forward to seeing him again. I’m currently older than he was at graduation, so I take each day with gratitude and anticipation.

  14. Amen! What a wonderful post x

  15. Thank you for the post and for sharing the wonderful story of your dad. I am so glad that you both have that heart connection (as well as your shared connection to God). Blessings.

  16. Wow. Great post. I know he will be missed. In the 2nd to last paragraph, you stated “her and deteriorate?”, you meant ” here and deteriorate?” Sorry, I can’t help myself. At least you know I’m reading….

    Hey, BBq rattlesnake is a real delicious delicacy. When you come visit, I’ll make sure you get some. And you use their fangs as your toothpick. Haha!

    Mike

    Sent from my iPhone

  17. Wow…I will be praying for your family though. What a perspective to be reminded of

  18. This is great. I agree and I’ll do a dance for your dad too. I didn’t even go to my mother’s and grandmother’s funerals for the same reason. I don’t know where they are buried and have never visited their graves, for as far as I am concerned they yet live and I will see them again one day. I think it is just selfishness that Christians who die are lamented and missed by those still alive. We need to love our relatives enough to release them to their eternal reward.

  19. “If mourners should lament, then let them weep for those alive….” (from a song performed by Steve Green) – we miss those who are going on but the joy we have knowing we will see them again outweighs all. I imagine my dad bounding across heaven in the full prime of life – not as he was at the end of his earthly time, his body shriveled up with cancer – no, he is alive and well and filled with joy! So shall we be knowing we will see them again.

  20. Thank you for such and inspiring post! i was a non-believer and watched my Christian father-in-law as he died this life but actually walked right into heaven. I can not explain what I saw it was something in the look on his face… anyway that was the day I believed and wanted to know all about Jesus. Also as everyone else in the room was crying I wanted to shout did you all just see what just happened here?! That was Jan 2010 and my life has never been the same, so yes I totally get your post, My father-in-law is living in Heaven now and rejoicing, just as your father-in-law is 🙂

  21. I don’t necessarily believe in heaven but I’m sure that there is something after this world. I’m sure you will see your dad again in a better place. Best wishes!

  22. 🙂 Amen! To live is for Christ and to die is gain. I feel the same way. If the one died is a believer I feel very sad if it’s not…

  23. What a wonderful post. Yeah, it is really graduation from this world. Thanks for this post. It is so inspiring. May you be bless.

  24. Great post!! My Mom passed away two years ago, and one month later, I heard her call my name one morning…in a young beautiful voice, not her 90 year-old voice, so I knew she was well, and with Jesus!!

    My family’s all saved, so I don’t question where they’re going…that gives me such peace…and it’s so encouraging to talk to them while they’re here on earth, and receive their spiritual guidance!!

    Whenever we go through stuff…God finds a way to use it to help others in His Kingdom…You just did that…for many people!! Thank you! God Bless!

    I have one son…I’ve told him right off…when I get sick…first of all, there’s always hope…call every prayer warrior you know to my bedside…and PRAY!!! If God answers by healing me…Yipee!! Enjoy my company now!!

    If not, and I’m going Home…plan a Home-Going celebration with music and laughter, and all those of all ages who loved me!! I’ll be watching in the Arms of Jesus!! I saw a celebration like that for one of our choir members several years ago…that’s how I want to go to Heaven!!

    And I want to leave a legacy for God’s Kingdom, so carry on, son!! Amen!!

    I’m going to reblog this on: godssceneryandpromises

  25. Reblogged this on godssceneryandpromises and commented:
    Great post!! My Mom passed away two years ago, and one month later, I heard her call my name one morning…in a young beautiful voice, not her 90 year-old voice, so I knew she was well, and with Jesus!!

    My family’s all saved, so I don’t question where they’re going…that gives me such peace…and it’s so encouraging to talk to them while they’re here on earth, and receive their spiritual guidance!!

    Whenever we go through stuff…God finds a way to use it to help others in His Kingdom…You just did that…for many people!! Thank you! God Bless!

    I have one son…I’ve told him right off…when I get sick…first of all, there’s always hope…call every prayer warrior you know to my bedside…and PRAY!!! If God answers by healing me…Yipee!! Enjoy my company now!!

    If not, and I’m going Home…plan a Home-Going celebration with music and laughter, and all those of all ages who loved me!! I’ll be watching in the Arms of Jesus!! I saw a celebration like that for one of our choir members several years ago…that’s how I want to go to Heaven!!

    And I want to leave a legacy for God’s Kingdom, so carry on, son!! Amen!!

  26. My mom graduated last summer. Minimal tears, lasting only a short time, because I’m SO thankful her long, painful journey is over. Maybe we grieve less when a loved one has run the race, kept the faith, and persevered to the end. It deligts me to think of my mom in heaven, pain-free, reunited with loved ones, and especially face to face with the Savior she loved and served for over 60 years.

  27. Thanks for sharing this….thanks to God that we do not have to mourn as those who do not believe…….God is good….\o/

  28. This made me cry. What a great way to look at it. Do people cry for a touchdown? Epic.

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