Being there for Dad


Honor your father

I took him to his favorite restaurant Saturday.

I’m getting close to my dad. A week ago, he was rushed to the hospital from the supermarket with what turned out to be nothing. Sick with the flu, he felt like he was going to fall.

He’s 87, so I felt like this is the red flag I’ve been waiting for to take more care of him. My dad and I are so different. I was a missionary. He lived the American Dream. I love people; he’s a recluse. My life revolved around extending God’s kingdom; his life revolved around HDTV. I was closer to my mom. She’s in Heaven now.

I’ve been sleeping out in the San Fernando Valley to keep him company. I’ve been driving him on his errands. I’m happy that finally I’m able to honor him with this service.

While I was a pastor in Guatemala for 16 years, Matt. 15:5-6 befuddled me. You say that if anyone declares that what might have been used to help their father or mother is “devoted to God,” they are not to “honor their father or mother” with it. Thus you nullify the word of God for the sake of your tradition NIV. That is what I was doing: I couldn’t help Dad and Mom with either money or service because I was serving God in Guatemala.

God brought me back to the States four years ago. I’m only an assistant pastor, so I’m freer now. God orchestrated everything so that I could honor my dad.

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36 responses to “Being there for Dad

  1. What a great opportunity which you did not allow to pass you by. May God give him the opportunity to live more so that you can serve him more to the glory of God. Blessings to you and your father.

  2. Thank God, you, have this chance. I was blessed, My father was a pastor too, and my first call was 80 miles from where he and Mom retired – He was my mentor and reason for entering ministry! He set my feet on the path and kept them there!

  3. Glade to hear he is doing well. Have a blessed week. 🙂 Jim

  4. Our Love and prayers go out to you and Uncle Roy. We are all different people and God has blessed you with this opportunity to serve him once again and you responded! Through Love all things a possible.

  5. It is good that you are able to be close by to help him. God does know what, when, where and why you need to be somewhere. We can’t always see it until we are needed. Have a great week, both of you. 🙂

  6. Wow this takes me back a few years when I was taking care of my dad. I thank Jesus I was granted the time with him because he was at the end of his life and he accepted Jesus as his savior.

    I was with one of my brothers about 3 months before he was murdered and I witnessed to him. He didn’t accept Jesus at that time but I have some hope that the seed was planted. I won’t know until Jesus calls me home.

    Thank God for the time you have to share Jesus with the ones you love.

  7. Isn’t it wonderful how God teaches us where to find him, how to prioritize?!

  8. Good work, Pastor.
    My father-in-law died about 18 months ago and my mother-in-law (82) moved in with us. Doing the right thing is rarely doing the easy thing.

  9. Great to read about your relationship with your father. Thanks for letting us into your life.

  10. It’s better to be late to church, after helping someone get his cart out of the ditch (or change a flat tire), than be on time after refusing to help.

  11. This touched my heart! The Lord has recently orchestrated the reconciliation of my relationship with my dad. It’s been such a blessing.

  12. I’m so glad that you are able to be there for your dad, Mike, especially with Barbara and Donald being so far away. Keep these updates coming, they are appreciated. If you need anything, just reach out we’re here.

  13. Blessings on you as you make good use of this God-given opportunity. My own father died at 64 and my mother at 72, both in America while I was in Japan (though their grave is in Japan), so I didn’t have the privilege you are having now. May our Lord’s love and grace be powerfully on and between the two of you in this time, for however long it is.

  14. I love the way you glorify God!

  15. It is right to honor your dad. My father passed away 2 years ago on January 18, 2013. My siblings and I took care of our mother (at her age of 54-60) when we all had small children of our own and it was difficult at best but we did it. Now all these years later it was time to return the favors to our dad. He did very well until the last four months and then we were at his home 24/7. I being a polio survivor since age 6 1/2 months in 1948 was visiting with him as he told me he wanted no more diagnosis, no more appointments and no more treatment. After six years of treatment and doctors appointments it was his decision and we all would stand behind him. The journey began. I will never forget that afternoon as I asked him “why did we move back to S.E. Minnesota to farm?” “Because somebody needed to have Doctors appointments” was his answer. At that time of my life I was only 10-11 years of age. Now being 65, I was set back and couldn’t even speak. After all those years he had to tell me something like that. Those days continued to be a struggle and I continued to be there for him every day I was scheduled and held his hand when he had communion and slept right by his bed in a recliner because I can’t walk without my long leg left brace in place. Why did I go time after time? because I still loved the man that had such strong feelings about something I had no control over. You do what you do because you love your dad and so did I. I asked my older sister about that conversation as to why we moved back from up north and she said “Because the farm land was better here.” I never said a word. Blessings in your journey.

  16. It is so good to get closer to your dad. Mine passed away 2 years ago next week and I do miss him. He was the best dad ever. Cherish the time you got with your dad, every moment !

  17. MY PARENTS HAVE LIVED WITH ME 13 YEARS BUT MOTHER PASSED AND IT’S JUST DAD AND ME NOW. HE’S 91. MY BIGGEST FEAR IS THAT IF HE HAS TO BE HOSPITALIZED . IT IS A GROWTH INDUSTRY TO BRING IN A SOCIAL WORKER FOR THE ELDERLY TO MAKE SOME RECOMMENDATION ABOUT STATE OR PRIVATE ASSISTED LIVING. THEY CAN TAKE THE PERSON AWAY FROM YOU AND WAREHOUSE THEM TO GET THEIR SOCIAL SECURITY AND OTHER INCOME. IT IS VERY FRIGHTENING. ONCE THE STATE MAKES SUCH ASSESSMENT, UNLESS YOU HAVE $$$ TO FIGHT YOU ARE FAIRLY HELPLESS.

  18. Loved this, thanks for sharing.

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