To improve the father-son relationship

father-son relationship

The father-son relationship is a wonder: you wonder how to make it better.

I’ve been a lousy son. I’ve justified staying away from Dad because he stayed away from me when I was kid. Dad never went to a single ball game of mine when I was a kid. He never played with me. So when I grew up, I never visited him more than the perfunctory. I’m not avoiding him; I’m just busy.

That’s why I praise God he was put in the hospital. The health scare kicked-started a new dynamic for me: duty. I needed to visit him if for nothing more than to check up on him.

This has been good because a new communication is sprouting. Previously, my dad would talk only about what he liked and shut down any conversation on another topic. But now, he seems so grateful to have my company (my only brother is in Idaho and can’t visit him), that communication is becoming two way.

He seems to be moving beyond the same old discussions about TV shows: pro golf, tennis, Dancing with the Stars and Bachelor. He finally shared some of his experiences in Korea with the post WWII occupation troops and his experiences as a skunk works engineer at Lockheed. I’ve been able to mention a few things about God.

I have this picture posted on the wall in my kitchen where I write. He’s smiling because I cracked some forgotten joke just before I snapped it. Usually he has a curmudgeon face. I like this one better.

I’m trying to improve the father-son relationship. Maybe I’m not the only one it’s hard for. It’s worth it to try to improve. Don’t wait for a health scare to spend more time with your parents. They’re lonely. They need you.

11 responses to “To improve the father-son relationship

  1. mrsmariposa2014

    Amen. Glad God has granted you this opportunity, brother. Glad the broken mess of my childhood is being redeemed through His grace and I have had a second chance at a loving relationship with my parents these past several years. It is indeed important.

  2. A good reminder for all of us!

  3. Thanks for your honesty. Felt compelled to read your story. Bless you!

  4. It is funny how we act often only when something happened. Yes don’t wait for it, do something before, well every day! Very honest of you to say all this. Wishing your dad well and may your relationship get better every day!

  5. Thanks for sharing! Im in the same boat with my parents …minus the getting better part. With Gods help i need to work through this wall of problems we have.
    Thank u

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