Loneliness, a great fear


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In Ender’s Game, Col Graeff isolates the child military prodigy: He must never think others will come to help him. He must find within himself the resources to solve his problems and triumph. In the end, the traumatizing “training” pays high dividends. Ender brilliantly defeats the buggers, who twice threatened to wipe out humanity. But the dividends come at a high cost: Ender can have no friends.

I loathe loneliness. I long for friendship, love, acceptance. Why must I face rejection in the place I expect to find love? Does God want me to learn to depend only on Him?

God made us to be social creatures. We thrive on affirmation. Without it, we can spiral. Social interaction can either help us serve Jesus or — depending on our friends — pull us away from Jesus. This is my basic ministerial tenet: give friendship to people and show them the way to Christ. Truth is critically important, but most people are not Socratic. They’re looking for friends, not truth.

Jesus associated himself with the despised: the prostitute, the tax collector, the leper. He touched a leper. That was forbidden by the law. He broke the law of God to grace an affection-starved human being. In medical terms, he risked getting sick to show love.

The church should not have outcasts, pariahs or blacklists. If it does, it approximates more the religious order of the Pharisees than of the disciples.

11 responses to “Loneliness, a great fear

  1. Great post because there is great truth in it.

  2. Excellent post. As Jesus said, “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick” (Matthew 9:12).

  3. Marisa Ulrich

    Amen. Well said.

  4. Amen. No one was beyond the healing touch of Jesus – nor should they be of us. Thank you for another inspiring blog.

  5. One of my favorite books. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

  6. Can you please let me know, how I link my page properly to the avatar? Thank you very much.

    I really liked this post a lot. Very true indeed. Sometimes God does use times of solitude to draw us closer to him. I just love him so much! God bless you more and more abundantly in the days, months and years to come! Amen

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