Old-fashioned marriage still the best

IMG_8895My New Year’s resolution lasted 2:34 hours, and then my wife woke up. She wasn’t talking loud enough for me to her, so I got mad. Oops.

The good thing is that can I re-take the resolution to be patient, loving and appreciative. I have the best wife in the world, so why do I get peeved over insignificant stuff???

Actually, I feel awkward lavishing praise publicly over my wife. It’s not that she doesn’t deserve it. But I don’t want to hurt people who have been hurt. I don’t want wives to get mad that their husbands are “unappreciative,” and I don’t want husbands to become envious. But a blogger friend said the internet needs more content eulogizing marriage. People need to know that good old-fashioned marriage, though it requires much work and sacrifice, can work very well. The cases where it works well are not isolated. To be sure, they are declining because of the insidious barrage of negative comments. Contrary to the constant bad press, marriage is still the best thing out there.

I refute the both the singing singles and the moaning marrieds. Your single life is NOT better. Your married life just needs work; stop griping (you studied years for your career, how much have you worked on your marriage?).

If you are divorced, try again. Do it right this time. Get God involved. Just because marriage is risky (both have to put in 100%) doesn’t mean it’s not worth a second try.

As Liam Neeson said: Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.

Once you’re divorced, you can’t fix it. If you’re married, you can fix things. I can still fix my New Year’s resolution.

14 responses to “Old-fashioned marriage still the best

  1. One of our blogging buddies wrote recently that the word for him this year is “PRESERVE”, ie preserving the faith as it is delivered to us from God. The sanctity of marriage is one of those pieces. It’s worth the effort.

  2. This March my wife and I will celebrate 31 years together. We recently started going out with another couple from church. They have 36 years and counting. Why? Because, at the end of it all, we work at not being selfish. We recognize love is not always a feeling; it’s often a choice made DESPITE feelings. Try my very first blog entry, True Love, 4/13/14.

  3. A big AMEN to this one! I’ve always said, for longer than the 46 years we’ve been married, that marriage is the biggest job of your life, but it carries the biggest rewards. (I learned that from watching my parents.)

  4. Me I’m still not sure, after two devoted husbands I only want to be with MY Soul Mate.

  5. As a newly it’s important for me to see older couples not just working out but actively engaging with each other. I and my age group have too many examples of people just winging it because they’ve already invested X amount of time. I appreciate your family’s transparency. Praise God

  6. In June we will celebrate 47 years. It has been blissful, horrible, wonderful, difficult, and joyful/sorrowful. It’s life. But the overarching theme is joy. Thank God.

  7. Reblogged this on RG's 2 Cents and commented:
    Another dose of wisdom from “Mustard Seed Budget”. 🙂

  8. Bravo! Telling it like it is! Thank you! God would not have Instituted marriage if it had not been good: the best. He wants us to prosper and be in good health and a good marriage is one of the keys.

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